September 8, 2010
Today is a major milestone in Lauren’s year – it’s her birthday. She is twenty-five today. Today is a much smaller, but still significant, milestone in my life. I started this blog exactly one year ago today. And, this is my one hundredth post. I had great hopes....but I didn’t know if I’d have enough to write about every week for a year. Apparently, caring for Lauren offers a great deal of material and subject matter. I have had a few faithful readers, others who drop in now and again. And, amazingly, readers who have stopped by from over thirty countries and most states. Thank you to all who have walked all or part of last year’s journey with me. I had originally planned to close my blog after a year, but I find that recent developments will be providing me with a new destination on this journey and much more to write about. Read on.
What does pretty much every twenty-five year old still living at home, dream about doing? They want to move out of Mom and Dad’s home, right? In the next year, Lauren will be doing exactly that. Are you surprised? I am! If you’ve been following my posts, you have some idea of how the question mark that was Lauren’s future has been an ever present, ever worrisome, fear- inducing companion of my days. We have, over the years, come up with every conceivable scenario and possibility for Lauren’s adult life – the day when we could no longer be her primary caregivers. Now with that day, for all intents and purposes, here – we still had no answers. A couple of weeks ago, unexpectedly, the answer was suddenly right there. My husband and I were driving along noticing the plethora of for sale signs on houses in our area and discussing the feasibility of us/Lauren/her trust buying a house which would be hers to live in with caregivers. Could we get some type of special mortgage? What about all the other associated expenses like electric, taxes, maintenance? How could we possibly cover this all? We had met with people seeking the answers to these questions and usually just came away with more questions. Nothing seemed feasible, manageable, sustainable. And, that was the critical piece – sustainable - what wouldn’t just work today or five years from now, but would still work twenty-five years from now? Then it suddenly came to me – THE PARK! We own a mobile home park – manufactured housing community – in a nearby town. To us it is a business that we’ve run for about thirty years. It just never dawned on us that it could also be the answer to Lauren’s future. There are many reasons why this will be the answer to all of the parts of the equation, which is Lauren’s future, that never added up before. Over the next year I will blog about the process and progress of building Lauren’s future. And, I ‘m sure there will be emotional hills and holes to explore. It’s going to be a very exciting year. I hope you’ll stick around and find out how everything works out.