Finding Serenity

March 23, 2010

In my last post, I wrote about the guilt associated with relinquishing the role of active, primary caregiver for both my daughter and my mother. In the last few days I’ve been able to come to terms with much of that guilt - with a little help from a friend. Her very timely missive was a copy of a prayer that I’ve heard many, many times, but apparently I needed to hear it again. “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

I am not responsible for the situation in which my parents find themselves. I won’t share the details, but I’ve been taken advantage of for many years by my parents and I do not have to let that continue. My mother will have to accept her current state of health, much of which has been caused by her own non-compliance with doctor’s instructions, and she will have to deal with spending the rest of her life in a skilled nursing facility. My father will have to either make the necessary changes in his lifestyle or realize that family will no longer be able to help him. "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

The changes we are making in Lauren’s life right now are appropriate, timely, and well thought out. We are giving her every opportunity to live a comfortable and safe life. We will continue to guide and oversee the course of her life for as long as we are able. There is no doubt in my mind that we are doing the right thing. It is time to let go. "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Thanks, K for always sharing the right words at the right time.

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