Last Thursday I brought Lauren home to spend the night with us. Lauren has not spent an overnight with Mom and Dad since her first night in her new home. She’s been so happy there and adjusted so quickly that I abandoned my original plan to “transition” her into her new place. Instead I let her settle in, get used to her new surroundings, establish connections with new sights, smells, and sounds. She has accepted this major change in her life with complete grace and enthusiasm.
She loves her new sofa. It not only reclines like the one at home, but this one rocks too. N has managed to fasten a seatbelt to the chair to make Lauren’s rather enthusiastic rocking a safe activity. A new fish tank is where she now happily spends her time in her stander. She grew to love N and L’s fish tank at their former home, and now she has one of her own. Scrolled letters over her bed proclaim, “May you live every day of your life with joy” and so far, that has been exactly how she has been living.
I was a bit concerned when I brought her home - how she would react to being back in her old room? Would she be confused? Would she be happy, sad, angry, unsettled? She was fine. She went to bed at her normal time and slept quietly through the night. It didn’t seem to faze her one little bit to be back in her old routines and surroundings. We had a lovely day together the next day. We sat at the computer and bought some new songs and then downloaded them onto her mP3. We sat in the screen room and watched Dad cut the grass (she loves the sound of the lawn mower). We had lunch outside and went for a ride in our golf cart. We painted our toenails pink ....and then it was time to go back to her house. Again, I wondered if she would be upset, if it would bother her for me to take her back and leave her with C. I drove her back and as we pulled into her driveway, she was complaining a bit. As soon as I pushed her into her house, her face lit up with a big smile. She was happy to be home.
There have been numerous bumps and potholes, frustrations and fears while planning and implementing this move for Lauren. But the most important part – how Lauren would react or adjust to having her own home – has had such a positive result that I am absolutely in awe of the outcome. It makes all of the insanity of building inspectors, electric companies, government regulations, and Mother Nature worth every minute. I thought I would have had to help Lauren learn to live in a new place, instead her maturity and flexibility have taught me to have more faith in my daughter and in the end...in myself.